Take Time to Communicate

For two Sundays running my wife and I had not seen a beloved sister in Church and so while at home after a refreshing time in Church she brought it to my notice. We took time to call her to find out how she was faring. She was so happy and took time to explain her situation to us. It was indeed a very warm session.

The most potent way to sustain a relationship is communication. Lack of good and proper communication is the major reason breakdown in most relationships. No one has the power to know what is in another person’s heart except through communication. When we communicate we establish and strength our relationships.

Communication gives you access to people’s experiences and challenges. It enables you to know how people think and why they behave in certain ways. It enables you to know how best to deal with certain people and varying situations. It equips you to know when and how best to support and intercede for people. In fact, there can’t be a good relationship without communication.

For communication to be effective it must meet certain conditions. One of the greatest conditions is: Seek to understand then to be understood. The challenge is we always want to be understood before seeking to understand. As long as we do this, we will never build a good relationship. But when we seek to understand others, it prepares the ground for us to be received and understood. This is in agreement with the Scriptures, “Treat others as you want them to treat you. This is what the Law and the Prophets are all about “(Mat 7:12).

Most communication problems will be solved by adherence to this condition. Therefore step out today and make a difference by applying this rule to your life and relationships.

I AM SORRY

Yesterday, around 7.30pm, I felt a nudge in my spirit that something wasn’t alright. I couldn’t understand it immediately but later I realized I made a mistake. I was spending extra time with my computer at the expense of being at home with my wife. Immediately I asked God to forgive me and rushed home. My wife wasn’t happy but I took time to apologize.

A heartfelt expression of ‘I am sorry’ can do more for you and your relationships than any other thing. Learning to say ‘I am sorry’ will deliver you from so much danger and heartaches. It quells the fury of anger and revenge. It snuffs life out of bitterness and hatred. It rebuilds broken relationships and oils the wheel of friendship. But most importantly, it kills pride.

Do you realize that pride is the major reason many find it difficult to apologize? Each time you go to someone and apologize for a wrong you did, you puncture your ego and no one wants his or her ego punctured. But when we realize that peace and good relationship are superior to our ego and pride, we can go to any length to ensure peace and harmony with one another.

For you to step out of your way to make peace will mean that your conscience is alive. A conscience that is alive will be pricked when you are erring. It’s literally impossible to honestly amend situations if your conscience is hardened. Ask God to touch your conscience and watch Him transform your life.

Today is the right time to start amending your relationships. You have the ability to make the most out of situations and people. Don’t continue keeping malice. Go and amend your relationships.